Darkside Blues

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  Active/Fading JWs...How Many Have Been DFd in Your Hall in the Last Year?

  by LostGeneration in

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  my jw wife came home really upset a couple weeks back.

  someone was "announced" at the hall that she really loves, a young woman.

  it was the fourth person dfd from her hall since the beginning of 2012. two young people, one single mother, (those three probably for "sex crimes" but i don't know 100%) and one ms, which is the most interesting from my perspective because i knew the guy to always be a rebel, and i suspect it was for apostasy or he dad.

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  Darkside Blues

  As of this writing, three people have been disfellowshipped in (my parent's) cong. No one's been reinstated, at least not yet.
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  I want to create an Ex-JW website. Please help! Need suggestions!

  by Chemical Emotions in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm not trying to rip off this site.

  i love this site, and i've found others, like jwfacts, that are also awesome.. but i thought it might be fun to try one myself.

  a forum-type site where i can also post cute things on the home page or something.. maybe for ex-jw women?

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  Darkside Blues

  A forum for ex-JW women would be pretty cool, actually. There are many issues that ex-JW women go through that men don't necessarily have to deal with, so it'd be nice to get support and advice in that regard.

  There's got to be some sort of forum you can set up for free (not as plentiful as they were in the 90s of course, but they still exist.) You really don't need anything fancy - just something that works smoothly for you and the end users. :)
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  Definition of "Negativity" according to JWs

  by LongHairGal in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i recently had a falling-out with a jw which i won't go into because it is nonsense really.

  in one of the pathetic retorts i was told i was "negative".

  this wasn't the first time i heard this from a jw over the years.. what i have noticed is that it is because i spoke about real life situations in the world and/or problems and wrong things in the religion.

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  Darkside Blues

  Agreeing with a lot of posts here. I admit to being more on the pessimistic side, but I'm a Pollyanna compared to JWs. I hate how they always talk about how bad things in the world are and they fail to see anything good about it. Even events that are nominally negative can have a positive effect on individuals - for instance, getting a divorce is, for some couples, the best thing they can do instead of remaining trapped in an unhealthy marriage.

  If you have a great bod and wear clothes that show off too much leg or any degree of cleavage, you're "immodest," not confident or comfortable in your own skin. If you're able to afford the finer things in life, you're "materialistic." If you have a lengthy conversation with someone of the opposite sex and is not your spouse, you must be flirting with them. If you have time to do anything that isn't either secular work that brings home a paycheck or "spiritual activity," you're accused of having too much time on your hands and not doing enough for Jahoover.

  Personally I'm glad I don't see the world the way they do. I don't see how anyone with their kind of mindset even manages to leave the house.
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  What Stupid Things Were You Counseled For?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've always been told that i have a very good personality, that i'm humorous, etc.. one elder called me over and said that i was "smiling too much".

  the other elders talked to the elder who counseled me and he came back to say that i should be like i was .

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  Darkside Blues

  The sister I had studied with at one point nagged me about my skirt length. Because of her I hardly ever wear skirts below the knee. Screw their version of "modesty".
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  Today's Watchtower Lesson Really Bothered Me...

  by dontplaceliterature in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was a hair away from telling my wife i never wanted to go to the kingdom hall again after today's watchtower.

  the conductor mentioned something along the lines of..."if you think having to shun your disfellowshipped children is bad...you should read up on the israelites.

  when one of their children was disobedient to the law, they had to take the before the judges so that they could be stoned to death...and guess who's job it was throw the first stone?".

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  Darkside Blues

  I was wondering what people were going to say during this WT study, but my dad wasn't feeling well and we left after the public talk. I'm glad I wasn't there since I probably would've grabbed a mike and give a piece of my mind in front of everyone at the KH.

  I hate that picture on page 31. G*d forbid that your grown child finally obtain his own place and moves out! It really disgusts me that there's the automatic assumption that a child leaving the WT will turn into an HIV-infected drug addict with children born out of wedlock. Maybe he seeks better job opportunities that aren't available where the parents currently live. Maybe he wants to travel and immerse himself in other cultures without the burden of trying to convert people. Just because someone wants out of the WT doesn't mean that they want to binge drink, shoot up and have orgies.
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  Nov.15th WT - Quotes Dissing - Internet, Higher Education, Earning a Living

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as most of us here are aware the wt society is using the " kool-aid " , or witness only version as i call it - to indoctrinate and intimidate jw members through fear and guilt to avoid anything that takes their devotion and attention away from allegiance to the wt society's ambitions.

  so the wt society is amping up it's control methods once again in various articles in this issue as well.. first off - notice this quote from page 14 , paragraph 16 , regarding how " dangerous " allegedly the internet is.

  it states, " these desires ( of the world ) involve such things as promiscuity, prominence , and possessions.

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  Darkside Blues

  I'm glad that my JW family members are actually quite lax in this regard. My mom wishes she had gone to college, and took out loans for me so that I could get my Bachelors. I may be strapped with student loans, but it's opened up doors that would otherwise be closed to me in terms of getting a job, especially in this recession.
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  Does your conscience ever hurt you for........

  by journey-on in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  .....bringing someone into the organization of jehovah's witnesses?

  personally, i had several bible studies, but thankfully, never got any of them all the way to baptism.

  my conscience is clear..

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  Darkside Blues

  I had a friend in high school that I brought to a meeting once (reluctantly since by then I no longer felt it was "the truth.") A sister that I used to study with essentially tried to poach her, and because of that, my friend never went back to the KH. I heave a sigh of relief that that happened!
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  Happily living life after the JWs. I didnt know it was possible.

  by TimothyT in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  its the most perculiar thing.

  i recall when i was in, i used to wonder how those disfellowshipped could live with themselves and thought that they must be the saddest and most depressed people on this earth.. how wrong i was.

  now that im one of this disfellowshipped ones my life has improved dramaticaly and im happier than i ever was.

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  Darkside Blues

  So glad to hear that you're free and living life! Indeed, you can have a happy life outside the WT, but of course the WT doesn't want people to know that such ones exist.

  And WTWizard is right - once you're out of the Borg, you can truly have fun!
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  Would you go back if you thought there were one in a million chances you were wrong?

  by Paul Duda in

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  often i wake up in a cold sweat wondering if i'm wrong.

  life is short.

  i have only a brief time to make a decision.

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  Darkside Blues

  No. I'd rather be "destroyed" with millions of other people (who in the grander scheme of things didn't need to be destroyed) than live in some bland "utopia" where there's no genuine diversity (no people of other faiths/philosophies, no LGBT community, etc.)

  Besides, it's not a real paradise if I can't sit on my duff and do nothing all day. ;)
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  Going to see an guy raised as a JW in concert, what should I do?

  by EntirelyPossible in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  this kills me.

  i am going to see the big 4 (metallical, megadeth, slayer and anthrax) in concert in ny next month, i just found out dave mustain, the founding guitarist and only permanent member, the guy that was kicked out of metallica for partying too hard, was rasied a jw.. i am answering my own question.

  party like a motherf*cker and try not to drink myself to death is what i should do.. i just thought it was hilarious.

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  Darkside Blues

  Wow...just wow! I was floored when I found out that Prince became a JW, but Dave Mustaine? Seriously??

  Party hard, dude! That concert is going to be epic!